All that glitters is not gold.
I found it ironic last night that the first person to respond to my new "single" relationship status change on Facebook was an ex-boyfriend. He sent gracious and encouraging words that I needed to hear right then in that moment. It really meant a lot to hear from him and to appreciate how nice it is when two people can simply realize they aren’t right for each other, let each other go in love, wish each the other best, and continue to be friendly as they both start life over again. If only it were always that simple.
My sweet bride, Sarah, told me this weekend at her wedding that she and her family and her friends and her guests all loved my blog because it was like watching Sex and the City. I don’t know if that is a good or bad thing, as much I do love the show. “Yeah, sometimes I wonder if I get too personal on there,” I shyly confessed, considering I was on my way back to being single and fabulous.
If I was Carrie Bradshaw, this would be the part where I would confess to my audience that, whoops, I did it again. I thought I saw Mr. Right in another guy only to realize that all that glitters is not gold.
Back to constantly striving for God's best in life and love and waiting. I am the first to admit that I’m not perfect, not a perfect Christian, not a perfect girlfriend, not a perfect daughter, not a perfect blogger, but I do continue to stay hopeful that God has His hand pulling me back on His path of life for me and keeping the faith that Mr. Right is out there somewhere. The dreamer in me always hopes my fairy tales will end up happily ever after like the weddings I shoot, but sometimes you wake up and see life is a lot more complicated. Or as Carrie might describe, sometimes what we thought was a real Louis Vitton is just another 5th avenue knockoff. The knockoffs might be a good bargain price, but if it looks too good to be true, it often is, and will eventually unravel. A lesson learned that the real thing is worth the wait.
And speaking of waiting...... Oh my gosh, just two more weeks until the Sex and the City movie premiere!! My girlfriends and I are so anxiously waiting and can’t wait for opening night! I heard on Perezhilton.com that Big leaves Carrie at the altar. Like that was a “big” surprise.
12 more days and counting before we all get Carried away....
My sweet bride, Sarah, told me this weekend at her wedding that she and her family and her friends and her guests all loved my blog because it was like watching Sex and the City. I don’t know if that is a good or bad thing, as much I do love the show. “Yeah, sometimes I wonder if I get too personal on there,” I shyly confessed, considering I was on my way back to being single and fabulous.
If I was Carrie Bradshaw, this would be the part where I would confess to my audience that, whoops, I did it again. I thought I saw Mr. Right in another guy only to realize that all that glitters is not gold.
Back to constantly striving for God's best in life and love and waiting. I am the first to admit that I’m not perfect, not a perfect Christian, not a perfect girlfriend, not a perfect daughter, not a perfect blogger, but I do continue to stay hopeful that God has His hand pulling me back on His path of life for me and keeping the faith that Mr. Right is out there somewhere. The dreamer in me always hopes my fairy tales will end up happily ever after like the weddings I shoot, but sometimes you wake up and see life is a lot more complicated. Or as Carrie might describe, sometimes what we thought was a real Louis Vitton is just another 5th avenue knockoff. The knockoffs might be a good bargain price, but if it looks too good to be true, it often is, and will eventually unravel. A lesson learned that the real thing is worth the wait.
And speaking of waiting...... Oh my gosh, just two more weeks until the Sex and the City movie premiere!! My girlfriends and I are so anxiously waiting and can’t wait for opening night! I heard on Perezhilton.com that Big leaves Carrie at the altar. Like that was a “big” surprise.
12 more days and counting before we all get Carried away....
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posted by Scarlett Lillian // Jacksonville Senior Photographer at 2:17 PM
32 Comments:
Wonderful words and very encouraging, Scarlett. Strive for God's best and I know you will succeed at all you do. You're an amazing photographer and business woman. The SATC premiere will be AWESOME. All I can hint about my out fit is....HOT PINK PATENT LEATHER ________. Fill in the blank!
Rachie
I love your blog, I check it everyday! You are so inspiring through your photographs, words and how you grow with Christ! I'm sorry to hear about your new singleness, but I know that at just the right time, God will bring along just the right man!
Wait...whaaaat?! You are nothing short of fabulous...and the right man is out there for you. God is Good All the Time, and All the Time, God is Good.
xoxo...
Scarlett- I've been following your work, as you know, for a while and just love your openness, honesty and love for the Lord. Not to mention your beautiful photos. I hope you continue to find strength in Him, your family and your girlfriends.
Oh my dear Scarlett - I SOOOO needed to hear these things today! I COMPLETELY understand you what you're going through right now!! LOL. It seems we've lived exact parallels for the past few months with the guy-thing. Thank you for your honesty and words of wisdom and for sharing your faith! You're so right on that God's got you right where He wants you and there's only better and better things to come!! *Hugs*
Oh, I'm so sorry that this relationship didn't work out. I know that God has bigger and better things for you and your perfect man is out there... keep clinging to His promises for your life! xoxo!!
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Finding out you are with Mr Wrong is just another step closer to finding your Mr Right! I too am hanging out for Sex and the City......I can't wait!
Hugs to you, Scar. :) I'm only a text away if you need me :) I, too, can't wait for the movie premiere! :)
When one door shuts, God opens another. Stay strong sweets!! He has big plans for you! O and I'm sooo counting down the days till the SATC Premier!!! Sooo going!!!
Chris
Hey sweet girl. I'm so sorry to hear things have taken this turn, but also rejoice with you knowing that we serve a God who is gracious enough to reveal that "all that glitters is not always gold." He won't let us settle for anything less than the real, precious thing we seek. I promise you, my sweet Scarlett, He has something amazing in store for you. And your perseverance and patience in waiting will be worth it all.
I am now thankful for every tear I have cried, every time my heart broke in pain, because it set me on a path to find Joe. Waiting, believing, trusting for God's best is never in vain. Don't settle for anything less. Stay strong, my friend. Big hugs and many prayers sent your way....
P.S. There are a lot of guys here in Nashvegas that are glad you're now single! :)
Amy
Can't wait to get out there to give you a big hug. Praying for you. Love. Stacy
Oh Scarlett...
You are in my thoughts and prayers, beautiful lady.
I'm excited about the movie, too! I'm looking forward to you blogging about it ;-)
Oh no! I'm sorry to hear about the break up. And like everyone else has said on here, God does have a plan for everyone. He puts each and every person in our path for a reason. So don't worry...God knows what he's doing. :)
Stay bright, Scarlett. Your light shines so radiantly, even in the midst of uncertainty. I understand the heartache of realizing that someone you thought was right just isn't. God is still turning the pages of your book. I completely respect your attitude, I think your outlook and positive response are serving as a wonderful ministry to all your readers.
Hey lady,
Sorry to hear it didn't go well... They say that in life there are no dress rehearsals, but I feel like when we have a relationship that didn't work, that was God given us a chance to learn, so that when that special one that He intended comes along... we'll have learned from all those past "situations" I'll call them... AND we'll appreciate "the one" all that more...
I love this song and if God DOES does bless me to get married it WILL be played at the wedding...
Every long lost dream led me to where you are/Others who broke my heart they were like northern stars/ Pointing me on my way into your loving arms/ This much I know is true/That God blessed the broken road/That led me straight to you
And with that I will say God bless you... and um, goodnight!
Oh Scarlett, you never stopped being fabulous. I don't think you could if you tried...
Been reading your blog since we met in Bama. I'm sorry things didn't work out. Keep your head and your spirits up!
Love the references to Sex and the City. I wrote a blog about dating recently and used this quote thought I'd share.
Talk to you soon.
Carrie: Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous.
The hubbs doesn't want to see that movie so is there anyway I can get in on the girls night!!! :D
No worries about the other thing.. Every guy I dated seemed to get me closer and closer to Mr. Right... Each one would teach me about things I shouldn't put up with or the things that were really important. I always wanted the "movie" perfect romance... Eventually my dear he will come along...
Rachel- LOLOL, you never told me about the hot pink patent leather part! Can't wait to see it!
Katie- Thank you so much. Thankfully God doesn't ask us to be perfect, it's about how we grow in Christ that is the most important of all.
Jasmine- I totally agree. That's always been a favorite quote of mine actually. Great minds think alike!
Heather- Thanks for embracing my openess!
Liana- Wow, really? That's so funny about how similar things have been on the guy front with us. I'm so glad my situation could help encourage you. It encourages me too to know you also understand and trying your best to wait for God's best too.
Amy Martin- Thanks girl! I miss you!
Cathy- Yep, trying to think that way.
Cory- Thanks girl! You are a great friend!
Chris- Thanks girl!
Amy- You are always so amazing with your sweet encouraging words. Thank you for the reminder that God has His hand in all of this. God has really used you and Joe as a great inspiration in my life. And so funny about the Nashvegas boys! It will be fun to meet them at your wedding! :-)
Stacy- You are so sweet, can't wait to hang with you next month!
Katie- LOL, yeah, I'm sure I'll blog about it!
McPhotography- Yeah, I totally agree that God puts everyone in our lives for a reason, if only for a season sometimes.
Rachel Brooke- You are amazing, thank you for understanding and encouraging that God is still turning the pages.
Jenn- Funny enough, they sand this song during the ceremony at the wedding this past weekend and I just cried my eyes out behind the camera hearing it because I'm just so tired of the broken road. But I'm still trusting that God has a purpose in the broken moments.
Christina- Ha, thanks!
Apryl Marie- Ha, funny, I almost posted that quote, but decided to post the video instead. Thanks for keeping up with my blog, what is your blog link? It's not showing up here.
Jess- Sure, email me and I'll send you details! Thanks for your sweet words!
Scarlett-I'm sending cyberhugs your way. Stay strong in your faith and prayer and confident in knowing that God never give us more than we can bare.
I'm always so inspired by your honesty. Thank you for allowing us a look into your life and for making it acceptable to not be PERFECT at all times and to understand that we will learn from the decisions we make. I NEEDED this post more than you can even imagine and I truly thank you.
Can't WAIT for SITC. Bought a new pair of shoes to celebrate. lol!
Scarlett ~
Never apologize for being authentically who you are.
Be Encouraged
i just said a prayer for you and your future husband.
I'm really sad for you right now Scarlett because I know you must be hurting. BUT- I'm so happy because God has someone that is even more perfect for you.
Thanks for being vulnerable. It is a good quality and one that allows you to connect with a lot of people and that God will use to comfort and come along side others.
Scarlett,
Thank you for being so open on your blog. It is an encouragement to me and others as well. Never be afraid to share your beautiful heart! I am so sorry that it didn't work out. But don't give up hope - you WILL find someone even more perfect! God just won't let you settle for less!
Isis- Thank you for allowing me to be honest with all my imperfections! I'm so glad the post could encourage you at the time you needed to hear it.
Andria- Thanks doll!
Jessica- Ha, thanks.
Ashley-Thanks Ash! God has been good through it all and thanks for reminding me how He is able to use my situations to comfort others. It's great to be reminded that there is a bigger picture.
Caroline- Your life and words have always been such a great source of encouragement. Thank you!
" Two Mr.Wrongs or three or four or five don't make a Mr.Right, or do they?"
Before I married my husband I dated every Mr.Wrong in the book, but with ever Mr. Wrong I learned more about my Mr. Right.
Unknowingly the Lord gave me the opportunity to discover all be it sometimes threw heartache, sometimes threw a since of relief what I actually wanted in a husband. Not just what I dreamt of but what I needed. With Gods grace I survived and in the Lords time he brought him to me.
So hang in there, the Lords time is not always quick but it's always right!
Sending lots of love your way,
Jess.
Scarlett, I follow your blog and love your work. On the personal level I wanted to leave you some hope. I myself was the LAST out of 11 girlfriends from High School to get married, many of nights I spent on the edge of my bed crying for 'Mr.Right'--where was he? when would we be together--why didn't God answer my prayers. One day I decided that I personally needed to love myself like the Lord loved me, I needed to realize that I just needed to get out there and have fun, not to worry about guys--just to be myself!
I am not the biggest Dr.Phil follower (actually haven't watched it in years), but he said something that hit home for me. He said it's not 50%-50%, it's 100% and 100% in what you bring to a relationship. If you love yourself, and love being with youself 100% then someday on some path you'll meet your other 100%. I eventually found him on my path--just as you will too. During that time I realized what 'Mr. Right' was--someone that God made for me. I know this seemed weird, but I prayed for a man that had Christ-like qualities--And I realized that when I prayed for something so HUGE it takes awhile to find him, once you do--it's amazing.
God bless your journey!
Jenn G.
Jess- Thanks for sharing your story! I agree about the Lord's timing!
Jenn G- Thanks too your sharing your in depth story also. I'm not a big fan of Dr. Phil, but I do agree that God wants us to be complete in Him first and foremost and allow ourselves to be loved by Him first before we are ready for love. I'll be the first to admit that I know God still has ways He needs to work on my heart and I'm looking forward to this time on my own again to grow in His intimacy even closer to His heart.
Actually, I think it's quite fabulous that you put it all out there for the world to see- it's one of the reasons that I check out your blog!
I believe authenticity is vital to establishing relationships which revolve around honesty and mutual respect. When I read a blog like yours, I feel refreshed because I see a real personality, and not some made-up persona that's supposed to sell clients on wedding services.
In other words - bring it on! With a blog like yours, who needs cable? :):):)
Hi Scarlett,
I too am a blog stalker of yours...
You are so sincere and kind hearted.
I want to be like you when I grow up...However, I'm already 44yrs old.
Oh well, I'm still growing every day.
I'm amazed at the wonderful people that God has put in my life. I consider you as one of those people. You just wait...You have only just begun...with the wonderful life you so deserve. Remember God only wants the best for you...so do I.
Jackie J.
Lisa- Ha! Thanks for embracing my authenticity. It means so much to have the freedom to be real and honest with everyone here. Thanks for continuing to follow my blog!
Jackie- Thanks for finally saying hi and for stalking my blog! You are too cute! I appreciate your sweet words!
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