A date with God.
It came in baby steps.
First, I broke up with my first love.
Then I went surfing.
Then I got up on stage and performed karaoke.
Then I tried online dating.
Then I broke up with the online date.
Then I quit my secure corporate job.
Then I moved out of my parent’s house.
Then I started my own graphic design turned video business.
Then I agreed to model for some photographer friends.
Then I became a photographer.
Then last Friday night, I did something else that has always scared me. I went on a date... with just myself. I was in Destin, FL to shoot a destination wedding for Julia and Hugo (their photos are coming soon!), but I was supposed to have dinner with my cousin Becky who lives near by. However, Becky was sick as as a dog, so our dinner plans got canceled. And my second shooters were still driving down from Atlanta, so I was left in Destin, all by myself, with nothing to do. So rather than go back to the hotel, I decided to live it up.
For the first time ever, I walked into a restaurant and asked for a “table for one” followed by a movie for one. Two things I never thought I would ever do in one night. As independent as I’ve always been, eating by myself and going to a movie by myself were two things I never ever ever ever wanted to do by myself. But wow, I honestly had so much fun!!
As I wrote the list above, I kept thinking “Psh, that’s not so bad.” But let me tell you, at the time when they were huge mountains in my life I had to climb and overcome, including Friday night. And it’s just amazing the places God can take you when we finally let Him have control.
For example. Tonight I had dinner at a restaurant that just 2 years ago, I conquered one of the fears... singing karaoke. My cousin Becky had just broken up with a great love of hers too, so I dedicated and belted out “I Will Survive” to her while celebrating her birthday. Here’s a video clip below (Becky is the hot blonde!).
Yes, I know, I’m blackmailing myself here.
So tonight I went back to the same restaurant to celebrate the fact that I DID survive. All the fears that I continue to work through, I have survived. All the dreams I have been scared to chase, I have survived. All the moments I could have settled for less, I chose not to and instead have survived. I proudly lifted my Cosmo and toasted to being single and fabulous all over again.
Since I had just come from the wedding rehearsal, I had my camera on me and decided to document the night to share the highlights of my date. When we let Him, God totally knows how to romance us. First He picked me up in my car I’m saving up for, a convertible Mercedes (ok, so I didn’t ride in it, but I parked right in front of it and couldn’t resist taking a photo). Then I got out of the car to see He painted me the most beautiful hot pink sunset sky. Seriously, it was breathtaking. Then our dinner at the restaurant, and onto my Heaven aka ColdStone Creamery, then finally ending the night with a great movie, “Why Did I Get Married?” Though I’m not married yet, the movie had a lot of great lessons on how important commitment is through the good and bad of married life. I really recommend it and it was a great date movie for the Big Guy and I. Even afterward, I couldn’t resist, I went in the photobooth at the movie theater, and used my camera to take a bunch of funny photos.
So here’s a slideshow of my night. And may you also find the courage to do something this week that scares you. There’s no greater feeling than conquering your fear to discover it is only False Evidence Appearing Real. Start by taking a bunch of photos of yourself at a photobooth. It’s so much fun!
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19 Comments:
Looks like you had an awesome night!!
Good for you.. thats so awesome.. I have in my life done things that I was affraid to do. Gone to England by myself.. Got Divorced from an abusive alcoholic..etc etc.. things I never thought I could do.. and the things I learned about myself and the personal strength I have gained from that, and continue to gain from doing just that stuff I was always affraid to do. So good for you.. rock on with your bad self
OMG I love it!!! Hey, I did the huge wine/drink list (it's about as big as they're food menu), and the table tents that were on your table at bluepoint!! Is the food good there? I've done stuff for alot of destin restaurants/bars there!! One thing I hate doing too is eating out by myself. I too am pretty independent but hate the movie/eating out solo. Don't know why. Go Girl!!!
Kara- I did!
Liz- We truly do gain a strength from doing the things that scare us! It's so awesome to hear all you have accomplished too!
Chris- GET OUT OF HERE! Small world! I was thinking they had great design! And yes, the food is YUMMY!
Hehehe... alone movie dates are the best! Sometimes there are those movies that you and no one else you know want to see. You never know if when you go to one of these movies and singly guy will be there alone too. Remember the couple in "Father of the Bride?" They met in a movie theater in Paris! The ice cream looked great too!
A date by yourself? I LOVE that idea!!! thanks for the inspiration :)
Thanks for being so real with us...I admire the fact that you are candid with your thoughts, feelings and fears. It's awesome!
Hi Scarlett,
Very beautiful post you made here.
You are awesome.
By the way, they let you take your camera into the theater?
So while I love you to death, it's a good thing you aren't quitting your day job for American Idol tryouts or anything. :P
Congratulations on your date with yourself!! I remember my first movie alone and dinner alone it was refreshing and something I did to overcome the fear of being alone. (shortly after God gave me Wes, LOL) There are times that I'd just rather go to dinner all my me onesies just to people watch. I'm glad you had a great time in Destin and I can't wait to see the photos from the wedding.
You are soooo adorable, Scarlett Lillian!! :-D
PS - I love that sunset picture!! :)
Hey girl,
I love the karaoke - rock on!
I'm typing this here b/c I will probably forget to ask you this - but we are running the Jingle Bell run the first weekend in Dec. if you want to do it. (In Valdosta).
Scarlett, your post actually had me in tears! Don't worry, they were happy tears. Your love for God and for the world around you amazes and inspires me. You are such a beautiful person! I can't wait to ask you to do my engagement/wedding pictures (when the time finally comes!) =) God bless!
This is so great Scarlett! I'd never have the guts to pull it off.
Rachel- I forgot about that in Father of the Bride!
Sasha- Glad I could inspire you!
Jen Harris- Ha, being so candid is conquering a fear in itself.
Steven- I snuck it in my purse... along with the ColdStone icecream. :-)
Jess- Ha, yeah honestly I am a good singer and tried out for a show called Popstars before American Idol and made it past a few rounds, but that night it was so loud in there and I had had a few drinks, and yeah, it just didn't come out pretty. :-) That's cool though that you also went on a date with yourself before you met Wes.
Cory- It takes one to know one!
Jill- Cool about the run, but I'm so out of shape right now, I tried to run again the other day, and I was huffing and puffing as if I had run a day in my life. But now with the crisp weather, hopefully I can back out there more.
Katie- Thanks so much for your sweet words! I can't wait to shoot your engagment/weddinng photos one day!
Tristan- Try it, you might surprise yourself!
Yah For Scarlett!!!!! And for God!!!!!!!! I know that you had a blast! You are doing it right!
You are awesome girl!! I love it!!! Your post made me wanna go out on the town all by myself!!!
your newbie photog. friend...who can't wait for a Q and A sessiion...
jill
Shara- Yay for God!
Jill- You totally should go out on the town by yourself! Let me know if you do!
How fun. You are too cute. What a great way to be alone and just think and enjoy life. :-)
Darice- :-) Yep, life is too short to not enjoy every moment!
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